The end of summer is drawing closer with each day, and the pressure of back-to-school chaos has once more found its way into my home. No matter how much I try and prepare for it, I still get caught up in the frenzy of shopping lists and regret that I have not done more over the summer with the kids.
How will you shop for all the new clothes, just the right shoes, backpacks, and check off everything on a mile-long school supply list when you are finding it challenging enough just to get through the day?
A Migraine Mom's Back-To-School Action Plan
This also breaks it up so if someone offers to help you, you can hand a list off to them without having to think about what you can ask them to do. And accept that help without guilt — you have a chronic condition that you cannot control, so do not feel guilty that sometimes you need help getting things done.
While my teens are now grown, I have two little ones left, ages seven and eight, who do not make a decision easily. I find standing there frustrated that even getting a backpack is this difficult can lead to more stress and an eventual feeling that a migraine is threatening.
I narrow choices down to a couple of best picks for the kids now, and then let them have a set amount of time to decide between those choices. They still feel empowered, and I don’t lose my mind.
There are certain stores that also have seemed to trigger my migraines (heavy amount of perfume in the air, loud music) so avoid those types of stores on days when you already feel a migraine coming on. In the past, I have sent my teens in to look at clothes on their own, while I hang out outside.
They would narrow down their selections for my final approval and come get me to see the pile they picked out and pay the cashier, limiting my time in the store.
And just as important as keeping yourself fed and hydrated, ensure you’re bringing your migraine survival kit with you wherever you go.
Remind yourself that nobody will know if you have purchased your child’s entire school year’s worth of clothing and supplies before the first bell rings. If you have the important “must-do” stuff checked off and your children can easily get through the first few weeks with clothing and required supplies, allow yourself to take a short break from the shopping and school prep if needed.
There will be time to get the rest of the supplies in the coming weeks, and perhaps you can do so with less pressure, stress, and fewer back-to-school shoppers around you.
Though your family needs you, you also need to take care of yourself in order to be there for them. Do what you must do to keep migraine pain away as much as possible.